hot take: the word “queer” exists as both a slur and an identity, and to say otherwise is erasure of both the struggles that people went through getting harassed/etc by people who called them that, and the struggles and activism that went into people reclaiming the word for themselves.
it’s called giving other people respect. if they’re uncomfortable with the term, then don’t force them to accept it, but if someone else is using it as an identity, don’t force them out of it. trauma is not an excuse to be an asshole